Willow + Birch
Therapy for Couples + Women
Couples Therapy
Being alone is not the only way to feel lonely.
Finding time to connect has somehow become the bottom of the list. You remember a time when seeing each other was the best part of your day, but that feels like a lifetime ago. Now it feels like your partner distances themselves more than they reach for you and you’re left feeling alone.
You start to feel your partner distancing whenever you show a bigger emotion. It feels like you have to manage things by yourself. You try to check in with them, ask them what’s wrong, but you’re met with “nothing.”
It starts to feel like your emotions should be kept to yourself. That they are too much for your partner. That you need to hold back, to shrink, to keep it all together. That then you get connection.
Your partner feels like they can’t do anything right. Like it’s their fault you’re upset, but they don’t know how to make it better. They feel like distancing is a better option than saying the wrong thing and making things worse. So that’s what they do. They feel like they have to do the "right" thing to feel close to you.
We can change this. We can interrupt the repeating cycle of emotions getting in between the two of you, creating more distance, and shift them into moments of true connection.
Where you both trust that the other can be responsible for their own emotions and stay present when you show your emotions. Finding time to connect can be something you both look forward to again.